I recently became aware of a young man who has begun to read my articles. His name is Justin and it seems that he is involved in a career for reasons of “security” as the priority. He immediately struck me as a very sincere and open guy who is genuinely worried about his future career endeavors. As I briefly read through a few of his writings, I quickly found a scenario that I truly believe represents many people these days. In his descriptions, Justin focused on the passion (or lack there of) in the work place. He openly admitted to pursuing a college education which has led him to a type of work that leaves him struggling for motivation. In other words, he is bored with his professional endeavors as they currently are. In his particular case, we find a young man with only a few years invested in a career thus far and is now expressing some level of regret for taking the “safe” path. But what about those who have 15, 20, 25 or maybe even more years than that in a career that has them feeling trapped and lethargic? Sounds pretty sad doesn’t it? Before those of you in this category throw in the proverbial towel, I would like to address this wide spread issue from a psychological standpoint. I truly believe this phenomenon has captured a huge number of people these days. First of all, I will simply say that there is but a single reason for anyone to remain in a job that leaves you unmotivated……. FEAR.
At the opposing end of the perceived comfort scale we always find a fear of something. At the very heart of all our human concerns the principle of “control” is the sought after desire without exception. Many career paths are decided and continued under the “assumption of achieved security”. If you feel secure, you believe you have control. The human structure has created a condition whereas our immediate physical control is our direct focus and our emotional satisfaction will simply have to wait. Within this concept, the condition of physical security is given precedence over our emotional security. The end result means that the paycheck has taken over the majority of the human mindset in the industrialized parts of our world.
As the world seems to get more complicated, the individual works even harder to achieve their version of personal control. This increase in the “me and I need to get mine” syndrome is at the root of human competition. As the perceived competition for physical control increases, the sense of concern for balance is pushed further down the priority ladder.
As I stated in one of thelistenbooks: “Competition among the people is man kinds greatest blunder”.
Whether you are young like Justin or well advanced in your working years, the reason that most of you go to work every day is likely found in your physical needs and, if you are like most, your emotional feeling of motivation and passion has taken the back seat. As this illusion of prioritizing our physical security persists, it does not take long to become a robot by our own design. A sense of urgency to gain control of our physical well being right away (before we are left out) causes a rapid out-of-balance in our priorities. Then, as we look around at all the other robots who show us the overwhelming evidence of confirmation based on the similarity of their movements, we decide that this is just the way it is. With this decision of conformity, the accepted personal responsibility of ones own destiny is now obsolete. The “herd” mentality is given the responsibility of dictating a general direction. In essence, you have relieved yourself of being different from the masses. Whether the occurrence reveals a positive or negative result, there is great power in numbers…….
It is the rare individual who stands away from the crowd.
When a pattern is established, we tend to accept this as “our normal”. (I will remind us all again that “normal” has little to do with “natural”). Once we each have our accepted normal path of direction, we then begin to subconsciously restrict the allowable flow of incoming potential new ideas. Without a conscious awareness of what we are actually doing, it is only a matter of time until we think we are without any feasible options. From a subconscious perspective, if we are unaware, we are not responsible. Within a short period of time this mental process will convince many people that they do not know what it is that would motivate them.
So to briefly summarize; The initial fear of a lack of control toward physical well being caused a decision to pursue a “secure” path at the expense of a passionate choice, which soon caused a denial in the conscious acceptance of any available options.
At this point it becomes a confusing affair. Due to the subconscious blocking of new potential ideas, we can and do sincerely believe that we are without any real passions. Our willingness to succumb to the status quo of “safe and secure” (which is an illusion within itself) has hidden away from our view any ideas that would otherwise get us excited. They are absolutely there, but as long as the fear of “being without” is dominate, those areas of personal excitement will likely stay hidden.
It can seem extremely risky to step out of the available illusion of security in order to take a chance on being happy.
It is for these reasons that it isn’t until later in life that many of us find our “Life’s work”. In general, it seems that we realize priority shifts as we age. Many of us walk similar paths with regards to spending many years in career(s) that leave us unfulfilled emotionally. For some of us, the discovery of our true calling only comes into view after we have earned all that income for all those years and are still not happy. I humbly admit to this myself. I have had those times of making millions (literally) and was not content with my accomplishments. I was a victim of working myself to ridiculous extremes only to come to a point when it all didn’t matter anymore. As I reflect, it is obvious I was not motivated by the income at all. I gave it away as fast as I earned it. I was hiding from life through my work.
My message applies to anyone who wishes to find out what truly would make you excited to pursue an endeavor. If, like Justin, you are in your younger years of a career, allow yourself the freedom to dream. Take on the personal responsibility of opening yourself up to new potentials. Your emotions should provide your direction. Your planned, rational thought should provide your process. If you find it scary to let your guard down and allow yourself to truly contemplate what type of endeavor would make you passionate, realize the fears revealed here are the reasons why you are reluctant. I will also suggest that part of your fear will be found in the possibility that you may just find what your looking for. Then you can’t hide behind the claim of unawareness any longer.
For those of you a little older, please accept that it is not decided by birthdays but instead it is your heart that will determine how you proceed. With reasonable consideration toward any physically demanding endeavors that may not be realistic at certain ages, it is precisely those of us with vast experiences that are in the position to know what we truly feel on the inside. I believe it is the responsibility of the advanced group to lead by example. Our examples should not consist of monetary accumulations but rather as an ongoing attitude of openly allowing new ideas to come into view. Stationary practices always become obsolete.
Maybe you didn’t yesterday, however, you will tomorrow if you decide today.
It is not your past actions that should have your focus but rather your current attitude toward tomorrows quests.